10 Steps to improving Your Self Confidence
1. Dress Sharp
When you don’t look good, you don’t feel good. If you don’t feel good about yourself, it changes the way you are around people. Now, we are not saying that clothes don’t make the person, but they sure do affect the way he or she feels about themselves. And guess what, no one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. So, take care of you and your personal appearance.
We are not saying go out there and spend a fortune on new clothes! Rather, shop smart and pay attention to cleanliness, co-ordination and style.
2. Walk Faster
Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important. One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow, tired, painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step.
3. Good Posture
People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. Practice good posture to automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
6. Compliment other people
When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
8. Speak up
During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
9. Get fit!
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physical appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive.
10. Give Back
The more you give, the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition. Too often we focus on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency.
We hope this helps you to discover a more confident you and allows you to achieve the desires you have felt you couldn’t go for.